Other speakers on the roster: Michelle Meow, Founder and host of Swirl Radio; Dr. Isabelle Ryan, fertility specialist at Pacific Fertility Center; Peggy Orlin, MFT, a therapist specializing in infertility, third-party family-building, and adoption; and Deborah Wald, Esq., specialist in parentage, adoption, and assisted reproduction law, and one of the most sought-after and respected LGBT family law experts around.
I am bursting at the seams with pride to be among the first news outlets to report that Ellen DeGeneris and her lovely spouse Portia DeRossi have revealed they’ve adopted a beautiful little girl! The news of the process has been kept strictly confidential until its completion. I am proud to say that for some very special reasons, I was among the early “non-essential,” “non-family” members to hear the good news, which had been embargoed by Ellen’s PR people until late last night.
Why me? Because Ellen has asked me to sign on as their personal parenting coach, and I couldn’t be more thrilled! They could have chosen anybody — anybody actually qualified! like Penelope Leach, or Dr. Sears — but they picked me.
Evidently Ellen has been reading this blog lo these many years, watching my children and my parental prowess grow as she gnawed at her (often quivering) lower lip, wishing that she and Portia, too, had happiness like my beloved and I have had. Wondering whether, if she were so fortunate as to have the opportunity, she might be half the lesbian dad that I am.
Well now she does have that opportunity, and I’m bound and determined to help her make the most of it. Launching into parenthood when you’re a middle-aged superstar who likes to cross-dress isn’t easy. But I’ve done it, and I’m going to teach her how.
I usually don’t pass on news items here, mostly because my discretionary time for posting is limited, and I know folks get news elsewhere, and my “beat” here tends mostly toward the parental. But I saw this at Towleroad, and felt compelled to draw it to wider attention: “Lesbian Beaten by a Dozen People at an Alabama Bar.”
The short version: a woman was jumped by 12 people; clear indications were made that she was being singled out for her appearance; she was the only one cuffed and arrested by local police.
Andy Towle embedded Â video from the local news station on it, and I’ll let you see it over at his blog. But Â I want to send you to it with a few quotations. Â From one of the men attacking Laura Gilbert:
If you want to look like a man, you’ll get hit like a man.
And from Laura Gilbert, to the reporter:
I’m an American just like the rest of us are. I have rights. I have the same right as y’all do. Supposedly.
*[Update: They did it! And now that they're fundraising in excess of their $10k goal, they're donating half of remaining money to the Ali Forney Center, a New York City homeless shelter for LGBT youth. Dictionary definition of walking the talk.]
Pariah! This film has to get to Sundance in the best possible shape, and its whole bodacious film-making crew has to be there along with it! Â I found out about it this morning from my handy-dandy Frameline e-newsletter (thanks, folks), and am all inspired to do my wee part in boosting its support.
Here’s what Frameline had to say:
Dee Rees andÂ Nekisa Cooper‘s feature adaptation of their Frameline Audience Award winning short will be finished just in time to world premiere at Sundance.Â The film is about a Bronx teenager forced to choose between losing her best friend or destroying her family while she juggles conflicting identities and endures heartbreak in a desperate search for sexual expression. If you would like to help Dee and Nekissa finish their film and make it to Sundance for their world premiere please check out theirÂ Kickstarter page.
Writer/director Rees’s bio on the Kickstarter page notes the following:
I’d say it goes without saying, but alas, it doesn’t. Mebbe not to y’all, whom I know to be a well-informed and engaged bunch, but one still has to honk the horn.
Here’s the League of Women Voters’ polling place locator, if for some reason you or a chum over your shoulder doesn’t know where to vote locally:
For locals to me, meaning Californians, here’s the Courage Campaign’s Progressive Voter Guide, in a handy-dandy printable PDF format:
Do note, fellow Californians, that the sane vote on Prop 23 is not merely NO, but “HELL, NO!” I take this verbatim from the page from which the guide itself comes, and I couldn’t agree more.
I close with some words from my doppleganger Dr. Rachel Maddow, who said the other night on her show, “What the election comes down to is getting your tuchus off the couch.”
So arise ye cynics! Arise ye malcontents! You have nothing to lose but your rationale for complaining about the wisdom and loyalty of your public servants!
I got an email yesterday from Chris Moore, President of the Stonewall Democratic Club of Greater Sacramento. Â In it, he provided an update on a tightly fought state assembly race in which the lead attorney for the Yes on Prop 8 is running. The National Organization for Marriage is in big for his campaign, and we all ought to know about it. And help support his opponent.
National Organization for Marriage is Using Children as Political Pawns… Again.
The folks behind the divisive and hurtful Yes on Proposition 8 T.V. ads just couldn’t help themselves — The National Organization for Marriage (NOM) is once again using children as political pawns, but this time in an attempt to elect one of their own, Andrew Pugno, to the California State Assembly by smearingÂ his pro-equality challenger Dr. Richard Pan. The two are facing off in a hotly contested race for Assembly District 5 in the Sacramento region.
I have nothing of interest to share about the upcoming mid-term elections, since (1) my relationship to matters political is less in the electoral and more in the cultural realms, and the best I can do is follow the former and try hard to have a positive impact on the latter; and (2) I am still at least a fortnight away from the end of a never-ending household revamp which has sucked up all my discretionary time, and therefore the very bloggy life out of me. It’s a miracle I can even find my glasses each morning.
(Utterly non-sequitorial aside: for Halloween I’m going to dress up as a contractor and scare the living shit out of the middle class home-owning grown-ups in the neighborhood by waving around a DeWalt cordless drill and threatening to encamp in their household for a few months, during which time I’ll keep telling them “It’s all going to be wrapped up soon,” and then I’ll laugh maniacally and say “Kidding! The floor guy just backed his truck up into the sheet rock guy, and they’re both tied up in small claims court! It’ll all be another three months, minimum! Bwahahaha!”)
Okay but no, still, one tries, if fitfully. Â In that spirit, please note details on the following, after the jump: California Progressive Voter Guide from Courage Campaign; a Friday night march and rally in San Francisco to focus on LGBT youth suicide and homelessness, and a reminder about two critical bills needing the support of your elected representatives in Congress: Safe Schools Improvement Act and the Student Non-Discrimination Act.
Hey, you drought-tolerant LD readers! I have a question for you.
I’ve been given the wonderful opportunity to be on a panel about LGBT families at this weekend’s National Lesbian & Gay Journalist’s Association LGBT Media Summit and National Convention. Â I’ll be joining several others — Judy Appel, Executive Director of Our Family Coalition, the Bay Area’s LGBTQ Family organization; Mark Snyder, Communications Coordinator at COLAGE; and Charlie Spiegel, founding Executive Director of Our Family Coalition, former Lambda Legal Board co-Chair, and family law attorney.
What should LGBT journalists know about our families? What stories are important to you and your family that aren’t being reported? Are there images or notions about us — inaccurate, or even oversimplified — that you find are beginning to lodge and need displacement by more nuanced reporting? Do you have any fresh, inventive ideas about how interested journalists can find us and tell our stories, or get our “angle” on LGBT and general-purpose family stories?
Anything you leave here in a comment (or directly to me via my contact form) I’ll be able to peek at and share at the panel, which happens in the afternoon on Saturday, September 4. Short notice, I know. I’ll appreciate whatever you can share with me, and via me, them.
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