- Below is a slice of Lesbian Dad life: a coupla dozen pieces which (popular or not) convey the breadth and gist of what’s in this blog and laid out in chronological order. If you’re visiting for the first time and are interested in looking at past material, here’s where I’d encourage you to start.
2006
Happy Blogging for LGBT Families Day!
My entry for Mombian’s Blogging for LGBT Families Day, 2006: what I learned at my first Pride as a parent. June 1, 2006
Who’s the daddy?
A father’s day rumination, with a twist. June 19, 2006
Plus ça change, or Prides I have known
An account of my second Pride as a parent (June 2006), a wistful yet contented reflection on how the times they are a-changin’. June 27, 2006
Mommy wars, the lesbian episode, pt 1
First of a two-part bit on the political ramifications (or lack thereof?) of lesbian motherhood. Part two tucks into this one in a link at the end of it. August 2, 2006
That boy in the blue sweater is a girl
A short Gender 101, with my Pops as ever-useful foil. November 15, 2006
Subordination
The pain of the Also-Ran parent. November 22, 2006
Third list of ten: Crisis/grief support
Some thoughts about what to do. December 13, 2006
Sixth list of ten: Ten things I have in common with Dads
If the “Dad” part of “LesbianDad” doesn’t make a whole lot of sense, these commonalities might help clarify things a bit. December 28, 2006
2007
A cautionary New Year’s Tale, or Homo not so sapiens
How stupid can a Baba be? Read it and weep! January 1, 2007
Tilt!
In which Hurricane Toddler finally hits. And we all say “Ouch!” February 5, 2007
Note to self re: LDC and sleep deprivation
Lesbian state secrets are revealed. January 30, 2007
Ten high and low points in one day (Adoption Day)
The rollercoaster ride of second-parent adoption ends with a BANG! not a whimper. February 10, 2007
Vat am I to do?
A collection of images and vignettes, following my dog’s leave-taking. March 22, 2007
Things are different now, part 1
Parenthood has changed me, and an auntie decathlon at the state fair provides the backdrop for this realization. May 3, 2007
A Baba’s Day Proclamation
Tooting the Baba horn, on a day otherwise set aside to honor the other people who aren’t officially Mothers, per se. June 15, 2007
It’s all relatives
A response to Peggy Orenstein’s NY Times magazine piece on egg donation: she left something out. July 19, 2007
Our family is like a lot of families
In which our kids celebrate the raucous diversity of their family, alongside their raucous cousins during a reading of Todd Parr’s The Family Book. July 27, 2007
Thanks giving
The faint tendril of hope that is the post-miscarriage pregnancy, brought by a bird in the snow (leading, as so many things do, to gratitude for my children). November 22, 2007
2008
Pee happens
Potty training is hell. January 15, 2008
Confessions of a Lesbian Dad (link to the first in a six-part series)
A previously published essay, meted out in six excerpts, answering the pressing question: How did I become a Baba? January 25 – February 1, 2008
Something borrowed
From a series (old-new-borrowed-blue), a reverie about how short it all will be. February 14, 2008
Palimpsest
I love them like I know the loss of a child. April 8, 2008
What happened after April, 2008? The May 15, 2008, the California Supreme Court’s In re Marriages decision, confirming the constitutionality of same-sex marriage, and pulling the “go” lever on a huge-ass, rarely fun roller coaster ride during which millions of dollars, hours, and reserves of good will were spent trying to preserve/override that decision.
Highlights from that spring through the next winter can be found at: An arrangement of LD posts on the topic of marriage equality.
2009
Maddow Widowers’ Support Group, open for business
In which I moon about my also-ran status around the household. February 18, 2009
We get what we get
I tie myself up in a knot over my daughter’s adoration of ballet, and then try to untie myself. March 11, 2009
The worst are full of passionate intensity
A lengthy meditation on hate crimes, finished with a Mississppi anecdote. June 12, 2009
Star Light, Star Bright
Gratitude in the face of mortality. June 18, 2009
Scattered notes from an anniversary
My beloved and I are celebrating 15 years together. C’mon along! July 16, 2009
Royal Dance
A trip to San Francisco’s Palace Hotel, to celebrate our girlie’s leap to Kindergartenerhood, occasions thoughts on gender, family, and vision. September 8, 2009
Re: the “fear on behalf of the children” meme
A mini-rant on a mega-lie. November 5, 2009
2010
For ever and ever and ever
Transience, hope, Michael Jackson, and my son’s journey into his full-spectrum boyhood. February 5, 2010
20 questions about lesbian fatherhood
Some local college students asked; I answered. February 24, 2010
A morning with DadDad
A photo essay of a haircut, an ice cream parlor visit, and two very sweet people. April 9, 2010
La caballista
For the man, do girls love their horses file. April 28, 2010
Et tu, Glee?
Elphaba ate Rachel’s dads, basically, and I am not happy. May 20, 2010
Open house
At the end of our daughter’s first year in school, I find how much I have to learn. May 28, 2010
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