Comments on: Family tree

By: rockyv

rockyv — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:34:15 +0000

Once again I find myself with wet eyes and a tight throat. Thanks for your beautiful writing & perspective. You too, dragon_mom.

My nose is to the grindstone (a self-imposed position) so much that I forget to look up and see those trees and those birds. I feel inspired to deepen my good night rituals ala lesbian dad pere.

By: Lesbian Dad

Lesbian Dad — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 17:19:22 +0000

Oh, here’s to load-lightening. Whatever else can we all do? And thank you so much, dragon_mom, for sharing your own moment. That rich visual image is likely to stay in my head now, for good. In every sense of that phrase.

By: dragon_mom

dragon_mom — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:25:12 +0000

It can be a darn tough world, with a lot of pain and hurt in it. But the trick is to find joy in every moment. “Joy” doesn’t have to be that bubbly euphoric sense of delight, but the knowledge that everything is still okay, and that there is kindness and love and smiles still in the world.

I remember riding in the car with my partner and little boy after our second son died, feeling… well, feeling nothing at that time. He had been born premature, and after 20 days in the hospital, our dreams of a family of four were over. It had been such an emotional time that I was just done in.

But I looked out the window of the car and saw the most beautiful sunset I had ever seen, with a flock of birds flying high and carefree over the houses and cars below. In spite of my pain, my partner’s pain, my living son’s pain, it reminded me that the world is still beautiful. It was that moment of joy.

It is still hard, even after eight years. But finding those moments of joy lightens the load.

I just love reading your blog – it also brings moments of joy to so many people!

By: SJnky

SJnky — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 02:50:50 +0000

LD, I love your writing and I really love your pops.

Thinking of you all.

By: kateroo

kateroo — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 21:13:00 +0000

Beautiful post…and beautiful place. The Monterey area is gorgeous. I was lucky enough to go to high school there and run cross country under trees like that….