Archive | June, 2009

I could eat him up with a spoon

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Just a split-second in the bath, in between bouts of his being fairly unhappy about the shampoo.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: this boy makes me crazy with love for him. The must bite a chunk out of him while making growly animal sounds kind of love. It’s amazing how qualitatively different the love is that he inspires, compared to that of his sister.

Quantity for both? Infinite, of course.  Or if there’s an ending point to it, I certainly can’t make it out. But the love for one wafts in, like Carl Sandburg’s San Francisco fog, “on little cat feet,” with fairy wings, diaphanous, breathtaking.  This one? A freight train. Carrying lions. So much for worrying about there being enough love to spread around to a second child.  As everyone says, your heart expands, effortlessly, to meet the new production demands.  And because each child is miraculously unique, so will your love for them be.

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Witless Wednesday

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I got so tired of seeing t-shirts that proclaimed, from the standpoint of the kid, that the kid believed something (cool, or politically in line with the parents, etc.) — even stuff that I believed in! hell, I’ve stuck my kid in ‘em! — that I went out and made a t-shirt that really told the truth.

You can buy one right here, and help his college fund.  By then, I’m pretty sure he’ll be literate.  Whether or not he’ll still be talking to me is another thing altogether.

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Bee girl at rest

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I ran into a friend today — Whitney, who with her homie Heather, is behind the Rookie Mom empire.  (Their blog & handbook are indispensable for not just rookie parents in search of ideas, but recidivist shut-ins like myself.) We were both grabbing some coffee before grocery shopping, our more portable (& not in preschool) youngins in tow.  She hepped me to the upcoming Bay Area pre-BlogHer conference meet-ups; we talked about our kids, our parenthoods, our bloggery.

I lamented that I hadn’t written a lot about the sweet details of family life lately. In fact, it feels like as soon as the contarned same-sex marriage battle heated up here, about a year ago, the sweet details of family life have become obscured by the fog of war.  I’m lucky if I wave it out of the way often enough to get a good look at anything else, sometimes. 

“I’d like to photograph the flowers outside the house,”  I told Whitney, about the direction this blog has taken, ”but it feels like the house is on fire.”

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Meet in the Middle 4 Equality Rally Video

Those of us who were unable to be in Fresno this weekend, by dint of geographical or logistic or financial or other entanglements, will be very inspired by this montage of speakers at the rally.   You can see how the spirits of César Chávez (¡sí se puede!) and Harvey Milk (you gotta give ‘em hope!) were hugely present there that day, shining through so many people, including his direct descendants, in the persons of his granddaughter Christine Chavez and Milk’s protegé Cleve Jones.

I truly feel better about what’s to come, based on what Robin McGeHee brought together that day. Not simply because of the numbers of people, or their spirit.  But because of what people were saying (as citizens to citizens; activists to activists): Listen to one another. Learn about the issues that matter to the people whose support we are soliciting.  Understand oppressions as interlocking. Be allies to one another. Let the young people lead, because damn are they ready to. 

I deeply, sincerely thank everyone who went there to show your commitment to this next step in this long journey.  Finally, I want to nominate Robin McGeHee Mom of the Year, Activist of the Year, Lesbian of the Year, and pretty much everything else of the year. Year of the year, fer crying out loud. Just watch:

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