Comments on: Some/thing new http://www.lesbiandad.net/2009/02/something-new-2/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:15:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: pe_in_pa http://www.lesbiandad.net/2009/02/something-new-2/comment-page-1/#comment-346019 pe_in_pa Fri, 13 Feb 2009 20:22:15 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=837#comment-346019 I haven't said much in a while. I'm the one in the peanut gallery who (probably quite annoyingly), repeats pollyanna statements like "we're getting there", and "change takes time, but I see it moving forward *all* the time and *all* around me." I'm the peanut who kept talking about the incredible example people of *any* type and persuasion set just by living their lives well and honorably. I'm the one where hubby and I have learned so much from a lesbian couple that our daughter connected with, and who rapidly became both her godmothers and legal guardians in case something should happen to us. Maybe you remember that annoying, pollyanna, little peanut. :) So I'm going to be Pollyanna again now. ...... I live in PA -- the same PA that McCain and Palin campaigned in, thinking they could swing us. One of their 'rallies' last summer was actually only about 30 mninutes away from me. Well, change is still happening, even in the land where 'those two' thought they had a chance. I attend a relatively large church, which belongs to a very mainstream Protestant denomination. (I won't name it here for privacy, but it's one of the most common Protestant denominatinos in the country.) In two weeks we're going to ordain, and install, our new assistant pastor ... who just happens to be in a same-sex marriage. Pollyanna still believes this is going to be a whole new world by the time my little one grows up. :) I haven’t said much in a while. I’m the one in the peanut gallery who (probably quite annoyingly), repeats pollyanna statements like “we’re getting there”, and “change takes time, but I see it moving forward *all* the time and *all* around me.” I’m the peanut who kept talking about the incredible example people of *any* type and persuasion set just by living their lives well and honorably. I’m the one where hubby and I have learned so much from a lesbian couple that our daughter connected with, and who rapidly became both her godmothers and legal guardians in case something should happen to us. Maybe you remember that annoying, pollyanna, little peanut. :)

So I’m going to be Pollyanna again now. …… I live in PA — the same PA that McCain and Palin campaigned in, thinking they could swing us. One of their ‘rallies’ last summer was actually only about 30 mninutes away from me. Well, change is still happening, even in the land where ‘those two’ thought they had a chance. I attend a relatively large church, which belongs to a very mainstream Protestant denomination. (I won’t name it here for privacy, but it’s one of the most common Protestant denominatinos in the country.) In two weeks we’re going to ordain, and install, our new assistant pastor … who just happens to be in a same-sex marriage. Pollyanna still believes this is going to be a whole new world by the time my little one grows up. :)

]]> By: wyliekat http://www.lesbiandad.net/2009/02/something-new-2/comment-page-1/#comment-345895 wyliekat Fri, 13 Feb 2009 18:43:40 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=837#comment-345895 I can definitely cop to feeling remote from the fight you're facing. Not because I don't support it (I most definitely do), but because my country has already dealt with this, and isn't likely (even with our now-conservative government, too small a minority to be able to push what would be an unpopular social agenda) to revisit it. Marriage for those who desire it is here to stay. I'm glad. So I'm left(ha!) watching what's happening in the states with horror, shock and sadness, but with that aforementioned sense of removal - it's not here. I have many, many reasons to loathe the conservative right in your country - but it's all on principle. I guess that's the long way of saying that I'm utterly useless in any fight you're facing, except as a cheerleader. In the non-pompom way. I can definitely cop to feeling remote from the fight you’re facing. Not because I don’t support it (I most definitely do), but because my country has already dealt with this, and isn’t likely (even with our now-conservative government, too small a minority to be able to push what would be an unpopular social agenda) to revisit it.

Marriage for those who desire it is here to stay. I’m glad.

So I’m left(ha!) watching what’s happening in the states with horror, shock and sadness, but with that aforementioned sense of removal – it’s not here. I have many, many reasons to loathe the conservative right in your country – but it’s all on principle.

I guess that’s the long way of saying that I’m utterly useless in any fight you’re facing, except as a cheerleader. In the non-pompom way.

]]> By: cardamom http://www.lesbiandad.net/2009/02/something-new-2/comment-page-1/#comment-345771 cardamom Fri, 13 Feb 2009 16:45:25 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=837#comment-345771 My nephew, he was 16 at the time, had very mixed feelings when my beloved was pregnant with our daughter a few years ago. What if it's a boy, what if the kid gets teased - the usual worries of the not (yet) informed. He knew he would get flak from his parents, maybe that was part of the deal, rebellion at puberty. He was the reason that we celebrated our civil union (we're European) much bigger than the rather advanced pregnancy called for: so he would see that not just his immediate family thought our love was worth celebrating but that it was a state-sanctioned social event everybody looked forward to and dressed up for, that he would get time off from school for - the whole shebang. He came around, grew up. This year he is at a college in California on a sports scholarship and when the whole Prop.8 battle started - and I learnt here how vicious some of it was/is - I wondered. I did not ask my brother what he was hearing from him about any issues, just wanted to know if he was fine in a general way. Then, after the election, I got an email from my nephew, it was a link to his facebook page. It was called "Making my aunts proud" and it showed pictures of him (and others) marching in LA in the first anti-Prop.8 demonstration after the fact. As you can imagine, I was indeed proud. And I cried. My nephew, he was 16 at the time, had very mixed feelings when my beloved was pregnant with our daughter a few years ago. What if it’s a boy, what if the kid gets teased – the usual worries of the not (yet) informed. He knew he would get flak from his parents, maybe that was part of the deal, rebellion at puberty. He was the reason that we celebrated our civil union (we’re European) much bigger than the rather advanced pregnancy called for: so he would see that not just his immediate family thought our love was worth celebrating but that it was a state-sanctioned social event everybody looked forward to and dressed up for, that he would get time off from school for – the whole shebang. He came around, grew up. This year he is at a college in California on a sports scholarship and when the whole Prop.8 battle started – and I learnt here how vicious some of it was/is – I wondered. I did not ask my brother what he was hearing from him about any issues, just wanted to know if he was fine in a general way. Then, after the election, I got an email from my nephew, it was a link to his facebook page. It was called “Making my aunts proud” and it showed pictures of him (and others) marching in LA in the first anti-Prop.8 demonstration after the fact. As you can imagine, I was indeed proud. And I cried.

]]> By: Vikki http://www.lesbiandad.net/2009/02/something-new-2/comment-page-1/#comment-345612 Vikki Fri, 13 Feb 2009 14:30:18 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=837#comment-345612 "Like what you just read? VOTE NOW" Oh...you are clever. Very Clever. Drat! “Like what you just read? VOTE NOW” Oh…you are clever. Very Clever. Drat!

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