Archive | September, 2008

Marriage equality & my dad


This is my dad.  

He is a life-long optimist.  The older he gets, the more simply and purely he values love over all else.  

He was legally married to my mom for upwards of thirty-three years. They’d still be married now, if she were alive. Hell, they still are.

He dearly wants California voters to defeat Proposition 8, which would remove the right lesbians and gay men have to marry in this state, and set back the gay civil rights movement nationally.  He wanted me to use his picture here on this blog to underscore that point.

Why does he care?

Because, like parents of LGBT people everywhere,  I’m his child.  He worked for the state of California for nearly forty years, paid taxes to it for over seventy.  It is a point of honor to him that I’m treated fairly by it.

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An early welcome to Banned Books Week

[The American Library Association's Banned Books week  will be celebrated from September 27 to October 4.  This year, I think we should break out the sparkling apple cider early.]

You know times are tough when, at your daughter’s fourth birthday party, you and three other parents find yourselves in the middle of the lawn, ignoring the flying Nerf balls and the children’s gay laughter, talking about your incipient ulcers and how you are all trying not to consult the latest polling numbers on the presidential campaign more than twice or three times a day.  My Know-It-All-Brother-In-Law had comforted one of them, earlier, with his combo-dealie argument about Michigan and Pennsylvania and Obama’s kick-@ss “ground game,” whose benefits won’t be visible until the latter hours of November 4.  Yow! Like my stomach can last that long!

But as a sister-in-law (soon to be out-law again?  another ulcer-stoker!  more on Proposition 8 later in the week!), I take his prognostications with a grain of salt.  Even though they are based on decades of involvement in and observation of electoral politics, and even though he could get pretty far on a Jeopardy show dedicated to the finer shadings of electoral vs. popular vote calculations, and trends, and so on.  I mean, his spouse has been a fundraiser for Democratic women candidates since before she was his spouse.  So he does kind of have an inside track on this.

Still!  We have all watched war-mongering dingbats become elected to high office in this country before.  And apparently, when the spit hits the fan, I find I’m a pessimist in optimist’s clothing.  So I am stocking up on Zantac and trying hard to reduce the frequency with which I check & re-check the latest polling numbers.

Meanwhile, I want to pass on some  ”mainstream” online news bits (with hat tips to Pam’s House Blend and Box Turtle Bulletin).  Each adds some more specificity to the accusations that then-Mayor Palin attempted to censor books from her town’s library.  Specifically, two books sympathetic to gay people (Daddy’s Roommate and Pastor, I am Gay ).   Per usual, the LD caveat pertains here: I don’t expect this to be news to you, gentle reader.  But if you know any independent, undecided librarian types, do pass this on to them.

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Weekend bonus shot, 09.14.08

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Tinkerbirthdaygirl, Berkeley, CA

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If ever there was a time to step up, it’s now

I went to a talk at the San Francisco LGBT Community Center last night, sponsored by Our Family Coalition, our amazing local LGBT family organization.  Family Law and Estate attorneys Deborah Wald and Deb Kinney spent an hour and forty minutes helping explain the mysterious inner workings of the law, as it functions for those of us who — for the next fifty-four days, at least — have the dubious distinction of enjoying marital status at the state level, but stranger status at the federal. With registered domestic partner status woven all around that.

I learned a great deal (mostly that I should have paid more attention to the chalkboard and less attention to my spitwads, back in high school civics classes).  But it was the last twenty minutes that stuck with me. Deb Kinney embossed into our skins some facts about Proposition 8, the anti-gay marriage proposition Californians will vote on this fall:

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Eight weeks out

My other day job (besides running around after the kiddles) will be heating up over the coming month or so, and as a result, posting here is likely to be lighter than I’d prefer. Truth is, until I rig things somehow so that this blog stuff pays me more than it costs me – that is, fiscally; it’s already priceless to me, emotionally and intellectually – from time to time, I have to pay more attention to my paying gigs.

Of course, the last time I went on a work-induced, month-long prose diet I had a very hard time keeping to it. I posted pictures daily, but some of the captions to the pictures kind of streeeeeeeetched the distinction between “caption” and “post.” Really, the whole exercise just proved to me yet again that loquaciousness is congenital: it can’t be cured; one can only just learn to live with it.

(It also proved to me that I can never Twitter. I did squat my name over there, and I do from time to time squander precious minutes pondering how I might be able to mend my ways, finally, and actually become brief. Okay, briefer. Ha! But I digress! Ha! See? I’m doomed! This right here? Nearly double the 140-character Tweet allotment!)

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What’s not to love about a carousel?

Especially when it’s your second one ever, and the big sister is bobbing up and down on a neighboring ostrich.

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Weekend bonus shot, 09.07.08

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Listening, Berkeley, CA.

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But I’ve been talking too much. What do YOU think about me?

Actually the beloved’s family, mostly all theater folk, deliver that old saw this way: 

“But I’ve been talking too much.  What do you think about my play?”

Robin Reagler, lesbian parent blogger extraordinnaire, interviewed me recently as part of an ongoing series, and has just posted the results.  

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