Comments on: A brief ditty about time http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:15:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Lesbian Dad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-251934 Lesbian Dad Tue, 19 Aug 2008 08:33:13 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-251934 That is just beautiful. So beautiful. So very happy for you all, <b>Shereen</b>. So very happy. And <b>Caroline</b>, I've thought a lot about you today (end of the day Monday). I hope there was much fun and much swirling. That is just beautiful. So beautiful. So very happy for you all, Shereen. So very happy.

And Caroline, I’ve thought a lot about you today (end of the day Monday). I hope there was much fun and much swirling.

]]> By: Shereen http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-251442 Shereen Mon, 18 Aug 2008 20:43:59 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-251442 Oh, LD. Amen, sister. We struggled at the beginning of this adoption, feeling like if it wasn't us there all day every day, we were failing. With time, with bonding, with the development of security and love, we're all able to roam away from each other. We just got back from a wedding in my best friend's back yard, where our daughter behaved - well, like a kid at a wedding. Came running up to one or the other of us every so often for a hug, or a touch base, or to ask for candy or cake or pop, or some other sugar-filled bomb. But she was surrounded by adults who talked to her, and hugged, and tickled, and laughed with, and cared for, and protected her. All the aunts and uncles who can be utterly goofy and get her all giggly and worked up on sugar. All the people who can say yes, and sneak her toffee, where she knows her mom and mama will say no, that sugar will rot your teeth. And we watched her run, bathed in the glory of all that caring, and I realized that as long as we can, for awhile, choose the folks in that circle, then we don't have to be everything to her. We can't be. We shouldn't be. It takes a village. It came as a bit of a shock to see the village made real. It was like a little piece of fairy magic, this weekend. Paper bag lanterns, and fairy lights, and a magical village appearing from nowhere, built overnight, and dissolved into its component pieces in the morning and flung back to where they came from. But she knows it can be built now. And will be again. And it's one of the foundation stones that will enable her to step into Grade 1 in 2 weeks with a little more self-confidence. She is loved, by many. She is protected by a whole village. Oh, LD. Amen, sister. We struggled at the beginning of this adoption, feeling like if it wasn’t us there all day every day, we were failing. With time, with bonding, with the development of security and love, we’re all able to roam away from each other. We just got back from a wedding in my best friend’s back yard, where our daughter behaved – well, like a kid at a wedding. Came running up to one or the other of us every so often for a hug, or a touch base, or to ask for candy or cake or pop, or some other sugar-filled bomb. But she was surrounded by adults who talked to her, and hugged, and tickled, and laughed with, and cared for, and protected her. All the aunts and uncles who can be utterly goofy and get her all giggly and worked up on sugar. All the people who can say yes, and sneak her toffee, where she knows her mom and mama will say no, that sugar will rot your teeth. And we watched her run, bathed in the glory of all that caring, and I realized that as long as we can, for awhile, choose the folks in that circle, then we don’t have to be everything to her. We can’t be. We shouldn’t be. It takes a village. It came as a bit of a shock to see the village made real. It was like a little piece of fairy magic, this weekend. Paper bag lanterns, and fairy lights, and a magical village appearing from nowhere, built overnight, and dissolved into its component pieces in the morning and flung back to where they came from. But she knows it can be built now. And will be again. And it’s one of the foundation stones that will enable her to step into Grade 1 in 2 weeks with a little more self-confidence. She is loved, by many. She is protected by a whole village.

]]> By: Caroline http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-250676 Caroline Sun, 17 Aug 2008 18:22:08 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-250676 Everyone keeps telling me that kindergarten will be SO GOOD FOR ALL OF YOU. And yes, in fact, it has been a loooong summer of destroyed living room furniture and general kid destruction. But T. starts tomorrow and I am a bit short of breath. Who will all these ppl be who will be caring for him ALL DAY LONG, EVERYDAY. He will change, and I won't be there to witness it! I know it will be good for him. I am just fretting here and feeling VERY sorry for myself. Anyway, your post was wonderful and so perfectly timed. THIS is what I need to remind myself. We can't always have my husband and I as his primary reference points. He needs lots of input, perspectives, energy, ideas coming at him. I know it will ignite such amazing growth, I know it will inspire him. And my controling tendancies will need to suck it up. So, my wonderful son, will be thrown into his own wonderful solar system tomorrow, with endless support, new ideas and fun swirling about him. Woo hoo! I just need to kick myself in the ass and get into that orbit right along side everyone else myself. Shuddering sigh. No. SNAP OUT OF IT. He is going to do great. And so will I. Thanks for the brilliant post! Everyone keeps telling me that kindergarten will be SO GOOD FOR ALL OF YOU. And yes, in fact, it has been a loooong summer of destroyed living room furniture and general kid destruction. But T. starts tomorrow and I am a bit short of breath. Who will all these ppl be who will be caring for him ALL DAY LONG, EVERYDAY. He will change, and I won’t be there to witness it! I know it will be good for him. I am just fretting here and feeling VERY sorry for myself. Anyway, your post was wonderful and so perfectly timed. THIS is what I need to remind myself. We can’t always have my husband and I as his primary reference points. He needs lots of input, perspectives, energy, ideas coming at him. I know it will ignite such amazing growth, I know it will inspire him. And my controling tendancies will need to suck it up. So, my wonderful son, will be thrown into his own wonderful solar system tomorrow, with endless support, new ideas and fun swirling about him. Woo hoo! I just need to kick myself in the ass and get into that orbit right along side everyone else myself. Shuddering sigh. No. SNAP OUT OF IT. He is going to do great. And so will I. Thanks for the brilliant post!

]]> By: dragondreamer http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-249994 dragondreamer Sat, 16 Aug 2008 12:30:13 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-249994 I think learning to take time for yourself and time to be with your partner is the hardest thing for any parent to learn to do. I really love that t-shirt too. I think learning to take time for yourself and time to be with your partner is the hardest thing for any parent to learn to do.

I really love that t-shirt too.

]]> By: SJnky http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-249769 SJnky Sat, 16 Aug 2008 03:13:42 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-249769 Ha!! That is way funny - people will think we had that planned :) I'm still getting one though! Ha!! That is way funny – people will think we had that planned :) I’m still getting one though!

]]> By: Lesbian Dad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-249690 Lesbian Dad Sat, 16 Aug 2008 02:00:09 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-249690 Ho ho! Funny you should ask! Right 'chere at: <a href="http://www.lesbiandad.net/swag/" rel="nofollow">LESBIANDAD.NET/SWAG</a>! Okay, actually <a href="http://www.cafepress.com/lesbiandad/5700227" rel="nofollow">my humble CafePress shop</a>, with which I hope to recoup a portion of the costs of doing this blog. Though right now, it's just working on recouping the costs of doing the CafePress shop. Ironic, eh? Ho ho! Funny you should ask! Right ‘chere at:

LESBIANDAD.NET/SWAG!

Okay, actually my humble CafePress shop, with which I hope to recoup a portion of the costs of doing this blog. Though right now, it’s just working on recouping the costs of doing the CafePress shop. Ironic, eh?

]]> By: SJnky http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-249585 SJnky Sat, 16 Aug 2008 00:34:26 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-249585 I believe that I need that Wood Nymph's t-shirt - where did she get it?? I believe that I need that Wood Nymph’s t-shirt – where did she get it??

]]> By: Lesbian Dad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-249393 Lesbian Dad Fri, 15 Aug 2008 20:12:55 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-249393 ;) ;)

]]> By: illegitimateAngel http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-249392 illegitimateAngel Fri, 15 Aug 2008 20:10:33 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-249392 I disagree with you about your census, but I enjoy your writing. ....carry on. :) I disagree with you about your census, but I enjoy your writing.

….carry on. :)

]]> By: Lesbian Dad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/08/668/comment-page-1/#comment-249376 Lesbian Dad Fri, 15 Aug 2008 17:53:37 +0000 http://www.lesbiandad.net/?p=668#comment-249376 Eeeps! Comment longer than post! Ooops. Somebody hide my soapbox from me before the urge strikes again. Eeeps! Comment longer than post! Ooops. Somebody hide my soapbox from me before the urge strikes again.

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