Comments on: Groom http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/ notes from the crossroads of mother and father Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:46:04 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Mr Lady http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/comment-page-1/#comment-234782 Mr Lady Fri, 25 Jul 2008 04:40:14 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=628#comment-234782 I am very sorry that you are going to have to suffer through what I can only imagine will be several weeks of comments that all say the same thing: You amaze me. I celebrate for your family today. Old married couples are the best ones, anyway. I am very sorry that you are going to have to suffer through what I can only imagine will be several weeks of comments that all say the same thing: You amaze me. I celebrate for your family today. Old married couples are the best ones, anyway.

]]> By: LookyDaddy http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/comment-page-1/#comment-223187 LookyDaddy Sun, 13 Jul 2008 01:22:05 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=628#comment-223187 *quietly stands and applauds, then reached for the accordion* *quietly stands and applauds, then reached for the accordion*

]]> By: RaJen http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/comment-page-1/#comment-222720 RaJen Fri, 11 Jul 2008 20:25:59 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=628#comment-222720 oh, many congratulations to you both. Here in Texas, we don't have the benefit of marriage, but we did commit to one another before family and friends in 2004, though we've been together and committed since 2000. And this April, I had twins. And in June, my Jennifer adopted them both. So we create our families to be just so, even if the state is so far behind. Blessings to your family. oh, many congratulations to you both. Here in Texas, we don’t have the benefit of marriage, but we did commit to one another before family and friends in 2004, though we’ve been together and committed since 2000. And this April, I had twins. And in June, my Jennifer adopted them both. So we create our families to be just so, even if the state is so far behind. Blessings to your family.

]]> By: JacqMissiTan http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/comment-page-1/#comment-222613 JacqMissiTan Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:22:50 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=628#comment-222613 Wow...That post sounds like something I would have posted on my blog, which is private because, well, you know. But that post is so familiar. I feel you, I really do!!! My partner and I have both lost our mothers, jobs, live in an area we feel we don't belong in, want to get married desperately, etc. It's like we're always trying to find a place to do the civil ceremony, yet I feel that we need to be in a place where we can be recognized as who we are, and not be stared at with disgust when we walk down the street holding hands... We wish you all the very best! Oh, and I had commented on here awhile back but forgot my password. I just created a new username with my other email because it was givin me a hard time. Should've written it down last time. Oh well. Always, Jacq, Missi & Tanner Wow…That post sounds like something I would have posted on my blog, which is private because, well, you know. But that post is so familiar. I feel you, I really do!!!

My partner and I have both lost our mothers, jobs, live in an area we feel we don’t belong in, want to get married desperately, etc. It’s like we’re always trying to find a place to do the civil ceremony, yet I feel that we need to be in a place where we can be recognized as who we are, and not be stared at with disgust when we walk down the street holding hands…

We wish you all the very best!

Oh, and I had commented on here awhile back but forgot my password. I just created a new username with my other email because it was givin me a hard time. Should’ve written it down last time. Oh well.

Always, Jacq, Missi & Tanner

]]> By: perkl8 http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/comment-page-1/#comment-222607 perkl8 Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:06:28 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=628#comment-222607 I hope you all have a sweet, sparky day of it! Light and lively! I gotta say, I do understand though. My sweet patootie and I have been joined in so many ways, so many times, we got anniversaries out the wazoo (very clever of you all to schedule the joinings around the same time every year!) We've got the DP and the DP ceremony, we got married in SF, annulled, married in Massachusetts. We were thinking about traveling the globe to all the marriage-ready spots and doing the deed in all of them so we could write a book about it. A graphic novel, perhaps. GRAPHIC. Anyhoo, we're near the end of our second-parent adoption process and I feel winded. Part of me is very very happy we can do this at all, that the broader culture will recognize we're BOTH parents, and part of me is PO'd beyond belief that we have to go through this at all (and a very expensive proposition it is for two struggling folks). After the social worker visit to our home, I was elated for about 10 minutes, because it had gone so well ... then I thought, now why did someone just come to our house to check up on us as parents? I'll try to see this upcoming ceremony, the court date for the adoption, as one more anniversary date to celebrate (and remember)! I hope you all have a sweet, sparky day of it! Light and lively!
I gotta say, I do understand though. My sweet patootie and I have been joined in so many ways, so many times, we got anniversaries out the wazoo (very clever of you all to schedule the joinings around the same time every year!) We’ve got the DP and the DP ceremony, we got married in SF, annulled, married in Massachusetts. We were thinking about traveling the globe to all the marriage-ready spots and doing the deed in all of them so we could write a book about it. A graphic novel, perhaps. GRAPHIC.
Anyhoo, we’re near the end of our second-parent adoption process and I feel winded. Part of me is very very happy we can do this at all, that the broader culture will recognize we’re BOTH parents, and part of me is PO’d beyond belief that we have to go through this at all (and a very expensive proposition it is for two struggling folks). After the social worker visit to our home, I was elated for about 10 minutes, because it had gone so well … then I thought, now why did someone just come to our house to check up on us as parents?
I’ll try to see this upcoming ceremony, the court date for the adoption, as one more anniversary date to celebrate (and remember)!

]]> By: justkeepswimming http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/comment-page-1/#comment-222574 justkeepswimming Fri, 11 Jul 2008 14:59:46 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=628#comment-222574 I wish you and your family the very, very, best. In so many ways the post your wrote is one that many of us, like you mentioned, could write (though not as well as you). My beloved and I are heading out the Cali-way to take advantage of the State's kindness in August...after 13 years and (for now) one child together. Love is the easy part, and the relationship is what is hard work. But if you're lucky enough to find that someone to stick it out, love and respect you for you, and work hard at love and life, to me, that's a marriage made in "heaven". All the best - eek. I wish you and your family the very, very, best. In so many ways the post your wrote is one that many of us, like you mentioned, could write (though not as well as you). My beloved and I are heading out the Cali-way to take advantage of the State’s kindness in August…after 13 years and (for now) one child together. Love is the easy part, and the relationship is what is hard work. But if you’re lucky enough to find that someone to stick it out, love and respect you for you, and work hard at love and life, to me, that’s a marriage made in “heaven”.

All the best – eek.

]]> By: librarygrrrl http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/comment-page-1/#comment-222506 librarygrrrl Fri, 11 Jul 2008 13:28:55 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=628#comment-222506 Many happy returns to you and your beloved today. Many happy returns to you and your beloved today.

]]> By: alhall http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/07/groom/comment-page-1/#comment-222493 alhall Fri, 11 Jul 2008 12:52:44 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=628#comment-222493 LD Groom, I hope the air around you and your family today is imbued with all the love that you and the beloved have created. I'm betting that your event will be witnessed by all those who love you -- both near and far. The very best. al LD Groom,

I hope the air around you and your family today is imbued with all the love that you and the beloved have created. I’m betting that your event will be witnessed by all those who love you — both near and far.

The very best.
al

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