Comments on: Child of the Week http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:15:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Chumpy http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-181121 Chumpy Wed, 11 Jun 2008 09:43:46 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-181121 Thank you for another wonderful, and wonderfully apt post. Before you know it note recipients will be part of the wider community upholding your family. Welcome back and hurrah (a kind of english pea hurray) for you. No such formal arrangements at our school nursery. Any parental appearance is strictly by invitation/ volunteering. Three years ago, wifey took newborn 2 into 1's nursery class at the teacher's request to show the class a baby being bathed. By chance he followed the minister who read a story then asked if anyone knew who the very special visitor for the day was...............'Baby Jesus?' was the subliminal reply from a class-mate. Thank you for another wonderful, and wonderfully apt post. Before you know it note recipients will be part of the wider community upholding your family. Welcome back and hurrah (a kind of english pea hurray) for you.
No such formal arrangements at our school nursery. Any parental appearance is strictly by invitation/ volunteering. Three years ago, wifey took newborn 2 into 1′s nursery class at the teacher’s request to show the class a baby being bathed. By chance he followed the minister who read a story then asked if anyone knew who the very special visitor for the day was……………’Baby Jesus?’ was the subliminal reply from a class-mate.

]]> By: jaqa220 http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-179490 jaqa220 Mon, 09 Jun 2008 11:32:22 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-179490 I'm the mom, she's the mama. If someone had to be elected the butch and someone the femme in our relationship, I'm the femme. And yet it's my partner who is hands down the better "mother" - the one worrying over what our daughter eats, remembering to make her wash her hands when she comes in from the park, ordering her rain boots on sale two seasons ahead of time to make sure we're "prepared". And like you, whenever our daughter will be in the spotlight - birthday party, parents invited to speak in the class - she works the hardest to infuse the experience with the love and care she takes with us both every day. While I worry about all the ways our daughter may be hurt by what makes us different, I also think nearly every day, so lucky, this kid! Two grown ups so committed to having a great time with her, loving her and caring for her. What a gift! Thanks for documenting the experience of your family. An act of bravery, and of kindness. I’m the mom, she’s the mama. If someone had to be elected the butch and someone the femme in our relationship, I’m the femme. And yet it’s my partner who is hands down the better “mother” – the one worrying over what our daughter eats, remembering to make her wash her hands when she comes in from the park, ordering her rain boots on sale two seasons ahead of time to make sure we’re “prepared”.

And like you, whenever our daughter will be in the spotlight – birthday party, parents invited to speak in the class – she works the hardest to infuse the experience with the love and care she takes with us both every day.

While I worry about all the ways our daughter may be hurt by what makes us different, I also think nearly every day, so lucky, this kid! Two grown ups so committed to having a great time with her, loving her and caring for her. What a gift!

Thanks for documenting the experience of your family. An act of bravery, and of kindness.

]]> By: LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-173114 LesbianDad Thu, 05 Jun 2008 22:47:33 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-173114 Happy to have you, sister, and your cutie-pie girlie (even if I was criminally sleep-deprived and correspondingly scatterbrained). The two gals were peas in a pod. Happy to have you, sister, and your cutie-pie girlie (even if I was criminally sleep-deprived and correspondingly scatterbrained). The two gals were peas in a pod.

]]> By: Chicory http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-172926 Chicory Thu, 05 Jun 2008 21:38:35 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-172926 phenomenal writing, as usual. I'm so happy I got to see the Lesbian Dad Domicile in person. I can attest to the happy and well-balanced children living there. phenomenal writing, as usual. I’m so happy I got to see the Lesbian Dad Domicile in person. I can attest to the happy and well-balanced children living there.

]]> By: LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-171539 LesbianDad Wed, 04 Jun 2008 23:57:03 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-171539 Many many thanks and warm hellos back to you all. While being away from the writing was a boon to my day-job worklife, I noticed very quickly how quiet it made things. Proverbially speaking. The chit-chat, communal aspect of this little enterprise is an enormous part of, if not the greatest part of its value. To your question, <b>Shane</b>: I sure as shit hope so. The campaign through the summer and fall will probably expose a lot of ugliness, but I'm hoping it will also flush out of the bushes those who prize love, and love justice. I can't see how it wouldn't usher in a new era, even if the dawn thereof will be a long slow one. These are good days for letting one's hopes blossom. And <b>Chris</b>, you know, I'm leery to overexpose my family (I know, an odd concern for someone writing publicly about it all the time). But so in trying to preserve some fig leaf of privacy, I can inadvertently wind up representing our lives as rosier than they are. My partner and I have stresses and conflicts, our kids drive us nuts, often. One way to connect with the fallable and the insecure in everyone else is to share my worries, at least, of which I got plenty. Glad to know that mine help keep yours company. Also glad to see that down the road a bit, they may ease up. Many many thanks and warm hellos back to you all. While being away from the writing was a boon to my day-job worklife, I noticed very quickly how quiet it made things. Proverbially speaking. The chit-chat, communal aspect of this little enterprise is an enormous part of, if not the greatest part of its value.

To your question, Shane: I sure as shit hope so. The campaign through the summer and fall will probably expose a lot of ugliness, but I’m hoping it will also flush out of the bushes those who prize love, and love justice. I can’t see how it wouldn’t usher in a new era, even if the dawn thereof will be a long slow one.

These are good days for letting one’s hopes blossom.

And Chris, you know, I’m leery to overexpose my family (I know, an odd concern for someone writing publicly about it all the time). But so in trying to preserve some fig leaf of privacy, I can inadvertently wind up representing our lives as rosier than they are. My partner and I have stresses and conflicts, our kids drive us nuts, often. One way to connect with the fallable and the insecure in everyone else is to share my worries, at least, of which I got plenty. Glad to know that mine help keep yours company. Also glad to see that down the road a bit, they may ease up.

]]> By: Att http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-171312 Att Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:44:52 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-171312 As usual, something I enjoy snuggling down onto my cube and reading in its entirety. I love being able to get a little bit of what goes on for the baba. Thank you =) As usual, something I enjoy snuggling down onto my cube and reading in its entirety. I love being able to get a little bit of what goes on for the baba.

Thank you =)

]]> By: Chris http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-171229 Chris Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:10:08 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-171229 Welcome back! I didn't realize how much I missed your writing until, well, now :) As the girls have gotten older, we've kind of gotten over the overcompensating stuff, but we still have a touch of it when it comes to CJ. Whether it's because he's the youngest, or a boy, or whatever, I don't know. Glad to see it's not just us. Welcome back! I didn’t realize how much I missed your writing until, well, now :)

As the girls have gotten older, we’ve kind of gotten over the overcompensating stuff, but we still have a touch of it when it comes to CJ. Whether it’s because he’s the youngest, or a boy, or whatever, I don’t know. Glad to see it’s not just us.

]]> By: Shane http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-171116 Shane Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:29:09 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-171116 I've been a reader of your blog for close to two years now but never found myself with much of anything to say. However, after reading this post I had a reason to register and post a comment. Thank you for all that you do, your Blogging is entertaining, enlightening, and often results in much laughter around my house as my partner and I read clips of your daily life. We have not yet been successful in producing a child of our own but are working on adding to our family and we both look forward to one day sharing in the same trials and joys that you and your beloved have experienced. I have wanted children of our own since shortly after deciding to spend the rest of my life with my beloved but was always terrified of how others would treat our child. I was, as were just about every LGBT person I know, picked on severely in my childhood for things I could not change and I didn't want to subject a child to that torment. My partner and I live in a fairly diverse community and have managed to find a school district where a child with two same-sex parents will not stick out quite so much, but there is always that chance. Do you think that the latest ruling in your home state will help to squash some of the "anti-family" feelings toward same gendered households? I’ve been a reader of your blog for close to two years now but never found myself with much of anything to say. However, after reading this post I had a reason to register and post a comment.

Thank you for all that you do, your Blogging is entertaining, enlightening, and often results in much laughter around my house as my partner and I read clips of your daily life. We have not yet been successful in producing a child of our own but are working on adding to our family and we both look forward to one day sharing in the same trials and joys that you and your beloved have experienced.

I have wanted children of our own since shortly after deciding to spend the rest of my life with my beloved but was always terrified of how others would treat our child. I was, as were just about every LGBT person I know, picked on severely in my childhood for things I could not change and I didn’t want to subject a child to that torment. My partner and I live in a fairly diverse community and have managed to find a school district where a child with two same-sex parents will not stick out quite so much, but there is always that chance.

Do you think that the latest ruling in your home state will help to squash some of the “anti-family” feelings toward same gendered households?

]]> By: Jeanine http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-169283 Jeanine Tue, 03 Jun 2008 18:54:14 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-169283 Great post! I can relate to every worry you wrote about and I'm also looking forward to reading the primer :). Great post!

I can relate to every worry you wrote about and I’m also looking forward to reading the primer :) .

]]> By: Ruffian706 http://www.lesbiandad.net/2008/06/child-of-the-week/comment-page-1/#comment-169192 Ruffian706 Tue, 03 Jun 2008 14:42:04 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2008/06/02/child-of-the-week/#comment-169192 Longtime lurker...I agree wholeheartedly with Penelope. Such a difficult balance to strike, especially for parents who know that they themselves are a potential source of hurt for their children. Gay, queer, straight or other, I think more parents and children would be well served to keep this vital balance in mind! Longtime lurker…I agree wholeheartedly with Penelope. Such a difficult balance to strike, especially for parents who know that they themselves are a potential source of hurt for their children. Gay, queer, straight or other, I think more parents and children would be well served to keep this vital balance in mind!

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