Comments on: Tapas Friday

By: Lesbian Dad

Lesbian Dad — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 10:28:07 +0000

I’ve been so loving the little crumb-trail of comments you’ve been leaving as you read through all these archives, Tamara! I had to just comment back to this one — that was totally a joke. The only point of the joke (and it was admittedly wee) was that three generations of lesbians would be so hard to be believed that folks would think we were kidding about it all.

Deadpan doesn’t always work in print. But that’s what it was. As my own life is testament, we are who we are, and love who we love, and being shoved in any one direction or another doesn’t change that. It just lets us know where the shover wants us to be.

By: Tamara Granger

Tamara Granger — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 05:10:27 +0000

“Iâ€™m going to really shove the girlchild toward heterosexuality when the time comes” how are you gonna do that? is that even possible? that makes it sound like homosexuality is choice something that we know is not…not in most cases…but it will be easier for her in the hetero world so I get the point…

By: LesbianDad

LesbianDad — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 02:59:50 +0000

O lordy, snail, this one could recite sonnets about them. First time she uttered a sentence, it was so complete (and complex), it freaked me out. It was kind of like looking at the dog and hearing her make some remark about current events.

Oh, and when the time comes, I s’pose I’ll have to find a way to warmly welcome whomever she brings home. Girl or boy or both. Devil take the hindmost. Long as they call me sir, and ask “How high?” when I say jump.

By: snail

snail — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 02:34:40 +0000

Haha, nah, three generations? That means you’re doing something RIGHT.

Gosh, your little girl is very articulate! After spending the whole week with first-graders who seem to go like this when they want something “I aoiwjknxv,zvsadf!” despite my excellently-honed child-to-adult translation powers, I appreciate a girl who can explain the allure of a good pair of scissors.

By: LesbianDad

LesbianDad — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 21:27:02 +0000

I am SO GLAD to know that there's no good reason for me to let up on the baked goods campaign. I just love baking too much. Don't THINK I didn't trot down to the culinary supply store to get me some works, special for the occasion. And as to queerspawn: Sister o sister! Are you kiddin'? It helps that the beloved (slash Mama) is queerspawn, too (a bothie!). She even has a t-shirt. I'm going to really shove the girlchild toward heterosexuality when the time comes, though, because a third generation of wimmin-lovin' wimmin would just be too treacly and hard-to-be-believed at pride parades.

By: Mrs.Micah

Mrs.Micah — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 20:30:00 +0000

I remember how I used to hope people would like my mom’s baked goods. Was definitely part of my trying to be accepted. Not because I was queerspawn (well, I didn’t know at the time that I was queerspawn, nor did the other kids) but because I was from a poorer family than the rest of them. Private school. Ugh. Worst 4 years of my life.

Oh dear, that sounds more negative than I meant. I’m sure your daughter will have a great time in school.

note: If you don’t like the term “queerspawn,” I can avoid doing it, I just felt it fit for me. Drop me a line or such.

By: Vikki

Vikki — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 19:38:41 +0000

Zeca had her first full day at her new school on Monday. Today was the first day that she cried. I consider myself a pretty seasoned parent but I wanted to scoop her up and take her to work with me…just because she asked me to! More congrats to your family as you enter this new stage. It’s exciting and frightening and, you are right – mostly for the parents.