Comments on: Lose some, winsome http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/08/lose-some-winsome/ notes from the crossroads of mother and father Thu, 29 Jul 2010 16:27:27 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Shannon http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/08/lose-some-winsome/comment-page-1/#comment-36427 Shannon Fri, 31 Aug 2007 20:01:35 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/08/31/lose-some-winsome/#comment-36427 That is such a sweet image. Good luck with the first day of school! That is such a sweet image. Good luck with the first day of school!

]]> By: giddings http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/08/lose-some-winsome/comment-page-1/#comment-36418 giddings Fri, 31 Aug 2007 18:46:13 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/08/31/lose-some-winsome/#comment-36418 These moments are the ones that worry me most and seem to clog up my blog. It's that strange desire to be "normal" even though there is no "normal." I wonder if people grieve to the extent of their deviations from the perceived normal. Of course, she'd never trade you for any dad out there, nor would she (in her heart of hearts) want you to be anything but her Baba! I suppose that everyone who is a part of some minority group because they are different in some way, become immediately aware of it and wonder what it would be like to not be in that group. I also suppose that while sometimes that status may feel like an albatross for them, other times it may feel like wings. These moments are the ones that worry me most and seem to clog up my blog. It’s that strange desire to be “normal” even though there is no “normal.” I wonder if people grieve to the extent of their deviations from the perceived normal. Of course, she’d never trade you for any dad out there, nor would she (in her heart of hearts) want you to be anything but her Baba! I suppose that everyone who is a part of some minority group because they are different in some way, become immediately aware of it and wonder what it would be like to not be in that group. I also suppose that while sometimes that status may feel like an albatross for them, other times it may feel like wings.

]]> By: LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/08/lose-some-winsome/comment-page-1/#comment-36415 LesbianDad Fri, 31 Aug 2007 16:50:08 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/08/31/lose-some-winsome/#comment-36415 Yep. There we go, just shy of the third birthday. A preview of decade to come. I'm going with the take-home message: yeah, she knows we're a minority family. She also knows instinctively where that places me in our family structure. If she wants to poke me in the Achilles' heel, she knows where it is. My job will be to make sure it doesn't become her Achilles' heel, too. Meanwhile, her love is undiminished. After all, fairies are her very most favorite critters. Yep. There we go, just shy of the third birthday. A preview of decade to come. I’m going with the take-home message: yeah, she knows we’re a minority family. She also knows instinctively where that places me in our family structure. If she wants to poke me in the Achilles’ heel, she knows where it is. My job will be to make sure it doesn’t become her Achilles’ heel, too. Meanwhile, her love is undiminished. After all, fairies are her very most favorite critters.

]]> By: Trista http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/08/lose-some-winsome/comment-page-1/#comment-36413 Trista Fri, 31 Aug 2007 15:49:38 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/08/31/lose-some-winsome/#comment-36413 Oh, yikes. I'm not a baba, but I think a chip of that crayon shot out like shrapnel and caught me in the eye. But damn, she's cute! And smart. Oh, yikes. I’m not a baba, but I think a chip of that crayon shot out like shrapnel and caught me in the eye.

But damn, she’s cute! And smart.

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