Comments on: Eighth list of ten: High and low points hit in one day (Adoption Day) http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/ notes from the crossroads of mother and father Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:41:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Flash: Coontz on marriage at the NYT op-ed page at LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-53347 Flash: Coontz on marriage at the NYT op-ed page at LesbianDad Mon, 26 Nov 2007 10:30:29 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-53347 [...] Once before when I mentioned my own adoption process (long-since finished with kid#1 — yahoo! — but just in its rosy-fingered dawn for kid#2), I appreciated the schooling and sharing from folks in the comments. My legal know-how is next to zip, and the law, of course, varies widely from state to state. I am grateful for corrections or additions and, as ever, for your thoughts. [...] [...] Once before when I mentioned my own adoption process (long-since finished with kid#1 — yahoo! — but just in its rosy-fingered dawn for kid#2), I appreciated the schooling and sharing from folks in the comments. My legal know-how is next to zip, and the law, of course, varies widely from state to state. I am grateful for corrections or additions and, as ever, for your thoughts. [...]

]]> By: Nenya http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-839 Nenya Sun, 18 Feb 2007 03:38:57 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-839 I promised myself I would register here when your son was finally born, but having been offline for the last few weeks, it seems appropriate to comment on this post instead. You're a really neat writer and I wish you and your family all the best! Congratulations on Legal Daughter status! :D (And please be informed that "waiting for the bus" has entered the argot of several people here to describe waiting for love. It is most appropriate!) I promised myself I would register here when your son was finally born, but having been offline for the last few weeks, it seems appropriate to comment on this post instead. You’re a really neat writer and I wish you and your family all the best! Congratulations on Legal Daughter status! :D (And please be informed that “waiting for the bus” has entered the argot of several people here to describe waiting for love. It is most appropriate!)

]]> By: ShirleyMalmborg http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-823 ShirleyMalmborg Fri, 16 Feb 2007 22:16:46 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-823 OK so I loved this post so much for the obvious reasons. And congratulations on being the legally legal Baba of Little Mac. BUT...I laughed my ass off at the thing about the Bozzer whacking away at an invisible bat. Crying with laughter, because I can see this in my minds eye and it's just so her, even without any sleep deprivation. Recall this to her, on a trip to see one of the Beyonder's plays in Chicago, said Bozzer locked us out of our rental car once on the way there and once on the way back. Ask her if she remembers that. Hee hee. Love you guys from afar. OK so I loved this post so much for the obvious reasons. And congratulations on being the legally legal Baba of Little Mac.

BUT…I laughed my ass off at the thing about the Bozzer whacking away at an invisible bat. Crying with laughter, because I can see this in my minds eye and it’s just so her, even without any sleep deprivation.

Recall this to her, on a trip to see one of the Beyonder’s plays in Chicago, said Bozzer locked us out of our rental car once on the way there and once on the way back. Ask her if she remembers that. Hee hee.

Love you guys from afar.

]]> By: IrreverendAmy http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-766 IrreverendAmy Tue, 13 Feb 2007 14:59:32 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-766 <i>odd mixture of relief/gratitude, yet also irritation/indignation. A f*ck you very much kind of a situation</i> I hear you. We are in CA too. We went through a sperm bank, so all we ought to have to do is call our lawyer with the birth certificate info, which my dw plans to do from the hospital. And we don't have any evil biological grandparents/aunts/etc. lurking in the background, waiting for me to be picked off so they can swoop in and steal our baby from her non-bio mother. But I still have that "this baby doesn't travel out of the state 'til we are both her legal parents everywhere" grimness. And it infuriates me that my sweetheart has to adopt her own daughter, when any man in her situation would be Legal Dad from day one. odd mixture of relief/gratitude, yet also irritation/indignation. A f*ck you very much kind of a situation

I hear you. We are in CA too. We went through a sperm bank, so all we ought to have to do is call our lawyer with the birth certificate info, which my dw plans to do from the hospital. And we don’t have any evil biological grandparents/aunts/etc. lurking in the background, waiting for me to be picked off so they can swoop in and steal our baby from her non-bio mother. But I still have that “this baby doesn’t travel out of the state ’til we are both her legal parents everywhere” grimness. And it infuriates me that my sweetheart has to adopt her own daughter, when any man in her situation would be Legal Dad from day one.

]]> By: marypierce13 http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-761 marypierce13 Tue, 13 Feb 2007 03:39:54 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-761 Congratulations! I was so relieved when our second parent adoption went through. Until then, I had horrible visions of my imminent death. And then the bad part, my sweet wife ending up in a long court battle with my family over our son. Glad its over. Congratulations once again. Congratulations! I was so relieved when our second parent adoption went through. Until then, I had horrible visions of my imminent death. And then the bad part, my sweet wife ending up in a long court battle with my family over our son. Glad its over. Congratulations once again.

]]> By: heidib http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-758 heidib Mon, 12 Feb 2007 19:56:45 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-758 Hi there! I have been a reader (and voter!) for your site ever since reading the Confessions... book several months ago, but have finally registered to say a quick congratulations! I will always remember our 2nd parent adoption day as a tiring, but oh-so-beautiful day shared with family and friends. Fortunately, the joy and gratitude felt on adoption day, overshadows the general indignation for a little while. We are thankful that it is even possible in our state (PA). The judge was a sweet elderly man, and our lawyer was wonderful, so we have no complaints in that regard. We are the proud mamas to 17 month old GBB triplets. As the full-time stay-at-home non-bio "Mutti", I have really enjoyed your writing and your perspective, so thank you thank you. And, again, congratulations! Hi there! I have been a reader (and voter!) for your site ever since reading the Confessions… book several months ago, but have finally registered to say a quick congratulations! I will always remember our 2nd parent adoption day as a tiring, but oh-so-beautiful day shared with family and friends. Fortunately, the joy and gratitude felt on adoption day, overshadows the general indignation for a little while. We are thankful that it is even possible in our state (PA). The judge was a sweet elderly man, and our lawyer was wonderful, so we have no complaints in that regard.

We are the proud mamas to 17 month old GBB triplets. As the full-time stay-at-home non-bio “Mutti”, I have really enjoyed your writing and your perspective, so thank you thank you. And, again, congratulations!

]]> By: LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-757 LesbianDad Mon, 12 Feb 2007 19:36:44 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-757 THANK YOU TRISTA!!! THANK YOU TRISTA!!!

]]> By: Trista http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-756 Trista Mon, 12 Feb 2007 19:30:39 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-756 CONGRATULATIONS!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!

]]> By: LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-754 LesbianDad Mon, 12 Feb 2007 18:21:47 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-754 LD, I know what you mean! I wander around our apartment looking for unclaimed wall space, and wistfully go back to the credit union statements looking for an unclaimed C-note. And thank you, Liza. The lawyer is going to be reported to the Better Business Bureau as soon as we're past the lil' peanut's first hundred days and can tend to secondary and tertiary concerns. Readying ourselves for Round 2, Legal Son, is definitely a primary concern, though. A coda of grace to the huge day was my sister's oldest friend (and my surrogate older sister) offering her legal expertise, <i>pro bono</i>, for Round 2. (!) Now <i>that's</i> a hetero ally for you. As soon as we're done dusting ourselves off I'd like to write a little something about what to look out for (#1: huckster ignorami!!). LD, I know what you mean! I wander around our apartment looking for unclaimed wall space, and wistfully go back to the credit union statements looking for an unclaimed C-note.

And thank you, Liza. The lawyer is going to be reported to the Better Business Bureau as soon as we’re past the lil’ peanut’s first hundred days and can tend to secondary and tertiary concerns. Readying ourselves for Round 2, Legal Son, is definitely a primary concern, though. A coda of grace to the huge day was my sister’s oldest friend (and my surrogate older sister) offering her legal expertise, pro bono, for Round 2. (!) Now that’s a hetero ally for you. As soon as we’re done dusting ourselves off I’d like to write a little something about what to look out for (#1: huckster ignorami!!).

]]> By: Liza http://www.lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-752 Liza Mon, 12 Feb 2007 13:52:56 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2007/02/10/eighth-list-of-ten-high-and-low-points-hit-in-one-day/#comment-752 *sniffle* Congratulations Baba & Legal Daughter! I am all moved and awed by the highs and lows of your crazy day. So sorry to hear that your lawyer was such a problem. (Ours was also more absent than present, but at least we liked her associate.) Are you ready for round 2, Legal Son? *sniffle* Congratulations Baba & Legal Daughter!

I am all moved and awed by the highs and lows of your crazy day. So sorry to hear that your lawyer was such a problem. (Ours was also more absent than present, but at least we liked her associate.)

Are you ready for round 2, Legal Son?

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