Comments on: Last days http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/12/19/last-days/ notes from the crossroads of mother and father Wed, 08 Oct 2008 07:13:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: skylar6 http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/12/19/last-days/#comment-364 skylar6 Mon, 25 Dec 2006 06:50:12 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2006/12/19/last-days/#comment-364 being the second child i know that when a sibling arrives - the parents love mutiplies, it doesn't divide. so yes, she won't be the only one anymore, but that doesn't really change how much you'll love her. being the second child i know that when a sibling arrives - the parents love mutiplies, it doesn’t divide. so yes, she won’t be the only one anymore, but that doesn’t really change how much you’ll love her.

]]> By: jon http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/12/19/last-days/#comment-355 jon Thu, 21 Dec 2006 22:17:04 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/2006/12/19/last-days/#comment-355 thank you for the beautiful pictures! Last night, Rosie (Zoe's mommy) and I were talking about how the conflicts of toddlerhood can seem to force parents into one of two choices: 1) deprive your little one of what she wants; or 2) give in to her wants, which may cause her pain or trouble in the long run. She doesn't want to take a nap! She just wants jam for dinner! She wants to go out in the cold without a coat! etc. Sometimes you can't avoid the dilemma, but in the best moments, the choice is a false one; all these moments of conflict are opportunities for the little one to learn about something, become more independent, work on her impulse control, develop all the habits of self-mastery that will make her a happy person. So I think you are not depriving her. It might *feel* like that sometimes (to both her and to mommies), but I think the reality is that you are bringing her a blessing and a gift! thank you for the beautiful pictures!

Last night, Rosie (Zoe’s mommy) and I were talking about how the conflicts of toddlerhood can seem to force parents into one of two choices:
1) deprive your little one of what she wants; or
2) give in to her wants, which may cause her pain or trouble in the long run.
She doesn’t want to take a nap! She just wants jam for dinner! She wants to go out in the cold without a coat! etc.

Sometimes you can’t avoid the dilemma, but in the best moments, the choice is a false one; all these moments of conflict are opportunities for the little one to learn about something, become more independent, work on her impulse control, develop all the habits of self-mastery that will make her a happy person.

So I think you are not depriving her. It might *feel* like that sometimes (to both her and to mommies), but I think the reality is that you are bringing her a blessing and a gift!

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