Comments on: Check off one more event in the adoption decathlon http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/ notes from the crossroads of mother and father Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:40:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Flash: Coontz on marriage at the NYT op-ed page at LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/#comment-53350 Flash: Coontz on marriage at the NYT op-ed page at LesbianDad Mon, 26 Nov 2007 10:32:30 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=89#comment-53350 [...] Once before when I mentioned my own adoption process (long-since finished with kid#1 — yahoo! — but just in its rosy-fingered dawn for kid#2), I appreciated the schooling and sharing from folks in the comments. My legal know-how is next to zip, and the law, of course, varies widely from state to state. I am grateful for corrections or additions and, as ever, for your thoughts. [...] [...] Once before when I mentioned my own adoption process (long-since finished with kid#1 — yahoo! — but just in its rosy-fingered dawn for kid#2), I appreciated the schooling and sharing from folks in the comments. My legal know-how is next to zip, and the law, of course, varies widely from state to state. I am grateful for corrections or additions and, as ever, for your thoughts. [...]

]]> By: LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/#comment-134 LesbianDad Mon, 16 Oct 2006 10:31:16 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=89#comment-134 Yow, what a story. Wheew. I am glad you are safe and sound. Yow, what a story. Wheew. I am glad you are safe and sound.

]]> By: drudolph http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/#comment-133 drudolph Tue, 10 Oct 2006 04:43:33 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=89#comment-133 You're not paranoid. As you may already know, the <a href="http://www.nclrights.org/publications/qa_ab205_012005.htm" rel="nofollow">National Center for Lesbian Rights</a> warns that if you live in a jurisdiction like California or New Jersey, and the state lets you put both your names on your child’s birth certificate without an adoption, you may still need to obtain a court judgement of parentage to avoid problems when traveling out of state. Check with your own attorney on this, of course. You’re not paranoid. As you may already know, the National Center for Lesbian Rights warns that if you live in a jurisdiction like California or New Jersey, and the state lets you put both your names on your child’s birth certificate without an adoption, you may still need to obtain a court judgement of parentage to avoid problems when traveling out of state. Check with your own attorney on this, of course.

]]> By: Liza http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/#comment-132 Liza Mon, 09 Oct 2006 16:51:16 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=89#comment-132 The map is right, GA law is silent on the subject. But judges have granted them in 4 counties. We ended up successful in our quest to get a 2nd parent adoption for Jill, but it was a hideous journey. (That we're grateful for, in that totally f*cked up way.) Our original home county has 10 judges, 9 of whom will grant 2nd parent adoptions to same sex couples. Two of the judges are apparently real pains about it, procedurally, but that just means it takes ages. We were prepared for that. We were not prepared when our case was assigned to the 10th judge. The one who won't grant them, period. And the way our local court rules operate, there was no escaping this judge. Because we're privileged enough that we could, we spent all of our savings moving to the adjoining county for 3 months. My parents and plenty of other people thought we were nuts, but we wanted unquestionable family security for Noah, from as early in his life as possible. The adoption was finalized when he was 4.5 months old. And we moved back to the original county and our original home the next weekend. The map is right, GA law is silent on the subject. But judges have granted them in 4 counties.

We ended up successful in our quest to get a 2nd parent adoption for Jill, but it was a hideous journey. (That we’re grateful for, in that totally f*cked up way.)

Our original home county has 10 judges, 9 of whom will grant 2nd parent adoptions to same sex couples. Two of the judges are apparently real pains about it, procedurally, but that just means it takes ages. We were prepared for that.

We were not prepared when our case was assigned to the 10th judge. The one who won’t grant them, period.

And the way our local court rules operate, there was no escaping this judge.

Because we’re privileged enough that we could, we spent all of our savings moving to the adjoining county for 3 months. My parents and plenty of other people thought we were nuts, but we wanted unquestionable family security for Noah, from as early in his life as possible.

The adoption was finalized when he was 4.5 months old. And we moved back to the original county and our original home the next weekend.

]]> By: LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/#comment-128 LesbianDad Thu, 05 Oct 2006 17:49:29 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=89#comment-128 Amen to that, sister. Amen to that, sister.

]]> By: LesbianDad http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/#comment-127 LesbianDad Thu, 05 Oct 2006 17:42:11 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=89#comment-127 Thank you for the factoid correction; I figured the story was lots more complex than the NGLTF map. May the winds of justice be blowing favorably for you all in November, and thank you for the blog props! Thank you for the factoid correction; I figured the story was lots more complex than the NGLTF map. May the winds of justice be blowing favorably for you all in November, and thank you for the blog props!

]]> By: Trista http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/#comment-125 Trista Thu, 05 Oct 2006 00:18:39 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=89#comment-125 Don't forget Utah. No adoption here. Though I'm jealous as all get out that you can adopt, I'm also furious that you have to. Make sense? It's just the ridiculosity of the tangled legal web we're forced to live in. I was going to say weave, to make the saying fit right, but we didn't weave it, did we? We're just doing our best to unweave it. Don’t forget Utah. No adoption here. Though I’m jealous as all get out that you can adopt, I’m also furious that you have to. Make sense? It’s just the ridiculosity of the tangled legal web we’re forced to live in. I was going to say weave, to make the saying fit right, but we didn’t weave it, did we? We’re just doing our best to unweave it.

]]> By: G_of_fairyfamily http://www.lesbiandad.net/2006/10/04/another-hurdle-cleared-in-the-adoption-decathlon/#comment-124 G_of_fairyfamily Wed, 04 Oct 2006 21:54:00 +0000 http://lesbiandad.net/?p=89#comment-124 I'm finally "de-lurking" myself. I just wanted to let you know that in Colorado, while we currently don't have second parent adoption we do have the ability to do a UPA (where two women can be listed as legal parents on the birth certificate). However I do believe that only women have been able to use this option. We do have a referendum coming up for a vote in November-- Referendum I. It's unclear whether this will allow two parent same-sex adoption or not. Love your blog btw! I’m finally “de-lurking” myself. I just wanted to let you know that in Colorado, while we currently don’t have second parent adoption we do have the ability to do a UPA (where two women can be listed as legal parents on the birth certificate). However I do believe that only women have been able to use this option. We do have a referendum coming up for a vote in November– Referendum I. It’s unclear whether this will allow two parent same-sex adoption or not. Love your blog btw!

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